Maximus offered me the opportunity to lead a BEYOND workout, and it only felt right to do it at The Badger… He told me to pick the topic and I got to work. I wanted to take it a step further since it was a BEYOND Badger… so instead of one long grueling workout, I chose a few. Makes sense, right?
My topic was Passive Leadership. Something I struggle with constantly. No matter how “great” I feel I am doing as a leader, I tend to slow down and mentally rest. I let my life lead itself and when I’m not behind the steering wheel, the wheels fall off.
Apathy/Indifference – feeling indifferent or lacking emotion
Passivity – accepting what happens without active response or resistance
Poor leadership has many faces… but passivity in my opinion is a main root of the issue.
COP (All Workouts Derived from the Exicon!)
11 of each for (Observed) Veteran’s Day
Sun Gods (Arm Circles)
Moroccan Night Clubs
Hairy Rockettes (Reverse Windmill, Toes reach up to hands)
Carolina Dry Docks
Low Slow Squat
Al Gore’s in a circle while I talked.
Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church.
I made a vow at the time I proposed to my wife that I wouldn’t be the typical American male who is distant from his family and doesn’t love or support them if their needs aren’t being met. I was on fire at that point in my life, leading and loving like God designed me to do. I felt unstoppable at accomplishing a love that no man had ever felt. Then I started to get in the way…
The great part about the Honey Badger is we get to honor men who didn’t lead passively.
We finished the warm up and moseyed over to the badger den’s infamous pull up bars.
Ryan – Firefighter Hero WOD
7 Muscle UPS or Pull UPS/DIPS
LBC’s while we waited for the group to finish. Gotta keep adding to the November count!
Drop down to Al Gore to keep the conversation going.
Somewhere along the way… I lost sight of my vow and decided that I wanted to pursue my own fulfillment over my wife’s. It ended up as you’d imagine. We fell away from each other while trying to conceive. I couldn’t think about her pain during the two years we tried, all I could think about was myself and how ready or not ready I was. We reached a point of pursuing fertility treatment – and by we I mean she decided and I didn’t really give any input. We were at the decision point to take hormone shots. Without consulting her or even thinking of her feelings, I backed out and decided for us to let it happen naturally. Needless to say I broke a lot of trust and I reaped the fruit of passive leadership. It was a hard fought battle to regain the trust I broke, but we made it back. All because I led apathetically.
Can you imagine how giving our all, all the time could have an impact? Would you rather be consistently good or inconsistently great?
Mosey to the track to take part in hero workout number two.
800 m run forward
400 m run backward
Pick up the six and run with him to the end. The guys planked while we did so.
We ran short so couldn’t do our third hero WOD, but I’m pretty sure everybody was okay with that. We moseyed back to COT for my message to come to a close.
Drop into Al Gore once more to finish the conversation.
I took the difficult time and raw relationship to heart, and was really helped by God and a few good men at my Church in MD. We conceived our daughter and that really helped bring us out of the pit. I vowed not to let our family growth become a wedge and would do my best to lead my wife through whatever comes next. That doesn’t mean I’ve been without issue. Things are constantly changing, and I have to remain in the lead for my wife and children’s sake. If I fail, their chances of failing increase exponentially. I need to keep my head up and lead in a way that will bear the right fruit for all.
Ephesians 5:33a – However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself
A few thoughts…
My life and how fast things change… my daughter will be four in five days. How did that happen? How did I blink and she get this old? Where did I fail? Where did I succeed? How does apathy/passivity cause you to miss things?
A lot of the things that take my focus away have nothing to do with my family. Work, friends, social media, keeping up with sports, golf, hobbies, drinking beer, music, news and politics. Some things take my family time away that are very productive. Church, volunteering at church, F3, working out. Some may have a positive impact on my family life but most of the time take away from my time with my family.
What’s more important?
End with LBCs x 16 IC until the clock struck 6:00.
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