Keeping it Simple at Lacesin

  • QIC: VQ warmup @Delorean @Shady
  • When: 11/04/2021
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Lacesin was where my F3 journey started and where I wanted to do my first VQ as kind of a symbolic gesture but because of scheduling conflicts it turned out to be where I did my 2nd VQ warmup.   Please hold for my honey Badger  VQ backblast.
Anyway….I’ll get on with it.

Disclaimer

Mosey lap to warm up, circled up for some SSH, Mtn Climbers, Hillbilly walkers, flutter kicks and staying down for some hello dollys. In cadence and 10 was the count for each.

Quick constructive criticism and things I did well from the PAX.

@shady takes over for the main event.
Mosey our way over to the flagpoles with a couple pit stops for some tree hugger squat. In cadence. PAX found that it’s more enjoyable if they don’t look fellow PAX in the eyes while doing this exercise.

Main event was the “Dora”. PAX paired up into groups of two and one group of three to reach a cumulative exercise goal of 100 diamonds, 200 lunges, 300 flutter kicks (both lunges and flutters were right leg count only ). Taking turns running to flagpoles and back, approx 150 yds.
Note: Goal with going with the Dora was the teach VQ’s and Q’s to keep it simple and don’t over complicate the exercise.
Mosey our way back to COT with 5%, 15% and almost full sprint increases after each pit stop with tree hugger squats.   Circled up for a around the horn to finish up. Each PAX calling the exercise and cadence.

@shady with words of wisdom.   Be in the moment and focus on the here and now.  Put the distractions aside and don’t fall into going through the motions.

Announcements: Bourbon tasting 11/19,  Operation Love, Charity wheel chair basketball tournament, Christmas party, golf tournament, Saturday 11/6 convergence in @shopvacs ( Sean Kelly) honor.

Prayers and Praises:

@Maximus: Prayers for wisdom and divine guidance with dealing with both his and wife’s work stresses and to keep focus on #1 mission, the kids.
@shady: Praise that his marriage is going very well.
Prayers for patience with 13 year old daughter.
@cyclops: Praise that his father has been in great spirits and has been fighting hard against pancreatic cancer.
Prayers for discernment and patients as new career opportunities have been opening up.  Prayers to wait on God to sort it out.
@deloroean:  Prayers for oldest daughter 15 Reagan that has been struggling with the loss of one of her friends.   Guidance to navigate this season.

In closing I just want to say that in the last 6 months I’ve been trying to make hard life changes, for example: I’ve cut out drinking, I’ve cut out social media, I’ve started reading more and Joined F3.
All simply for the reason of wanting to be a better Husband, father, friend, entrepreneur/ business owner, man in general and most of all follower of Jesus Christ.   The hard work and pain is worth it!!
Thank you @rebel for the introduction to F3!

#SYITG

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F3TheFort Holiday Drop-In

The Forts annual holiday party will have a different feel this year.
With COVID still lingering we have decided to have a gathering but it will be a bit different.

We are encouraging The PAX to go to dinner with your M and either your Shieldlock, Whetstone, or small group of fellow PAX and their Ms. After dinner we will all gather for an hour or so of a social hour(s).
This will give our Ms the opportunity to meet the crazy fellas we spend the early mornings with but more importantly their M.

We are all fortunate to have this crazy group it is also just as important to try and let our Ms meet some other ladies in the community and possibly let them start great friendships as well.

Make it a day of F3. Start with the golf outing, go to dinner and then grab a couple beers, a bottle of J Lohr wine, a cocktail and let’s kick off the holiday season.

If COVID worries you or your M we will have an outdoor area to hang out at as well as indoor areas.

Where- Springfield Community Center- by the tennis courts/pool
420 Horton Grove, Fort Mill, SC 29715

Time- 7pm-9pmish

When- Dec 3rd, 2021

Contact- Backdraft with any concerns…

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Tasting 2.0 – It’s back

It’s been talked up in COT for weeks.  It’s been asked for by certain PAX for months.  It’s an event whose impact and generosity will hopefully be felt for years.

Without further delay, YHC cordially invites you to Tasting 2.0.

To be clear, this is not an event which 2.0’s are to attend.  : – )  It is great opportunity to kick off our series of events leading up to the D2D relay whose proceeds will ultimately serve and benefit the generation of 2.0’s who follow us.   Here are the particulars:

Date – 11-19-21

Time – 1800 to 2100

Location – Reserve at Gold Hill Clubhouse: 631 Quicksilver Trail

Entry – $50 donation (or more if you feel called to donate beyond that level) and one bottle of preferably good bourbon to share.

Other notes –

1 – Catering will be provided and those who do not drink bourbon are welcome to bring a beverage of their choosing

2 – We will be raffling off a few bottles that local businesses have been kind enough to donate for this event.   Which ones, you ask?  #showtoknow

Why do we do this?  As leaders in our community, one of our obligations is to #giveitaway, creating opportunities for others to seek the same advantage we have been fortunate to find through F3 and our brotherhood.  Our last event raised $1500 and it is my hope that we can go past that mark this time.  How far we surpass that figure is up to us.

Looking forward to your attendance and participation in next month’s event.

Cyclops

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Be the Example Everywhere You Go

Pax,

I look out into the gloom in the mornings and I see great men of this community challenging our bodies and minds in order to Accelerate our toughness. We know this toughness–or this armor–is necessary when we leave the gloom and go back into our homes, workplaces and community.

The public continues to have great frustrations and anxiety with this pandemic, the divide in political ideologies and more. But remember, if we look back through time, these stressors or other similar stressors are there. We must continue to rely on the armor we build and the knowledge that we are looked at for our example as we go forth. Even if people are not looking at us for direction, positive value transfer will take place.

As for COVID, use your good judgement to decide if you should post if you’ve been close to someone who has tested positive or are exhibiting symptoms yourself. Please continue to respect the pax and their families. The opinions on COVID prevention vary greatly. Please respect the differences of opinion and take the necessary steps for you and your family to feel safe. Personally, I have had COVID and have been vaccinated. I was vaccinated because I thought this best for my family and me. You WILL NOT hear me pass judgement on your choice. You are a HIM that can make your own choices based on your own circumstances. Additionally, I hate wearing masks, but on the occasions I am asked to do so, I comply because of the respect I have for those who’s anxiety is greater than my own. Again, my choice.

If you are asking why I’m sending this note… it is to say I have seen nothing but RESPECT and LEADERSHIP in the gloom. You men inspire me greatly. I catch myself throughout the day thinking about how I can emulate all of your positive values I see, and when faced with a challenging situation with tension and opposing opinions I try to give the same respect that we give one another in the gloom.

SYITG,

Esso

 

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One more beach body workout

This week’s Q was constructed under a very sobering atmosphere. With the news of the passing of ShopVac, YHC tried to find a way to honor him with our actions this morning. However I’d only worked out with him a handful of times and hadn’t been able to attend any of his Qs. So the only way I know how to honor a HIM like that is to sweat it.

The gloom

7 appeared in the gloom at Pantheon, including Scalp, whom I had been trying to recruit to Q for some time. Guess I’ll have to pester him some more

warmup

A quick mosey down to the west side of the parking lot and over to the crosswalk for:

10x SSH
10x Cherry Picker
10x Imperial Walker

The thang

Today’s workout is a derivative of Slapshot’s “pendulum” workout, but with a simpler twist. Rather than keeping track of separate counts, just start at 15 each side and only subtract one each round. Less confusing and more painful, really.

PAX started at the crosswalk and ran east to the end of the sidewalk. Down on the six for 15 BBSUs. Back to the crosswalk, pausing for 3 burpees, and then running around the bend to the bike racks for 15 4-count flutters. Back to the crosswalk for another 3 burpees. Do this again with 14 reps, then 13, you get the idea.

With about eight minutes left Senator Tressel was able to get down to 4 reps, having lapped most of us TWICE. (He may be wearing a knee brace, but he doesn’t perform like it). Scalp was on 5 reps, and the rest of us on 6.  At this point I asked the PAX to let me know when we had five minutes left, to which they replied “we have two minutes left”.

“LOL, sure we do, guys. It’s a tough workout <changes watch screens>… oh, crap. Let’s get back to COT!”

Original plan was to use the last five minutes to do Lutefisk’s delightful “vacuum cleaner” routine in ShopVac’s honor. But it just wasn’t meant to be.

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Name-o-rama with all PAX opting to say “ShopVac, 56, Sean Kelley”.  YHC asked all present to speak any words they may have about ShopVac, followed by a brief discussion about being seen in the dark (in no way referring to our brother’s circumstances, of which none of us are cognizant). And prayers for the family and all involved…

nmm

Use your time well…

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The Goggins Challenge (with a few friends)

My recap of the weekend we did the Goggins 4 x 4 x 48 Challenge…

GOGGINS 4x4x48 (Sept 17-19, 2021)

In anticipation of this past weekend’s event, I was filled with the desire to be “prepared.” Sure, there are good aspects of preparedness but I tried to keep from being sucked into my trap of idolizing the preparation. I didn’t want my preparation and training to be the focus of my life and therefore, a distraction or problem for my family. I’d say I was able to accomplish that.

I took off work on day 1 of this challenge, Friday, September 17 so I could focus and be present throughout, minimizing distractions. I wanted to be present for my Shieldlock meeting in the morning, for the morning conversation with my wife, for the process to get ready for my first run and every run thereafter and finally, be present for the run itself. Whether the plan was to run by myself, with one other person or a group, I wanted to be present.

When the time came to lace up the trail shoes for the first run, I was excited. No nerves or anxiety, just joy. I shared with Fishsticks how surprised I still was that a few guys wanted to do this with me when I mentioned it a few months ago. It’s less the question of “why” we would do this. It’s more the question of “why not” do this. It’s something to challenge us physically, mentally and frankly, emotionally. Lastly, it’s an activity that goes in the category of “GET TO” rather than “HAVE TO.”

Run #1 was a trail run, 4mi long with Gears, World Wide Leader (I’ll abbreviate to WWL), Fishsticks and Rock Thrill. No, they weren’t born with these names, their parents surely loved them more than that. These are their given F3 names. We took off from Allison Park in Fort Mill’s Baxter neighborhood and the run was an out and back on a trail a few of us have become accustomed to. We chatted, complained, laughed and made the obligatory comments about how we were only finished with 1/12th of this effort, once completed. We remained safe, under control and present.

We all parted ways to either get back to work for some or enjoy the day off for me. I drove the road route in our neighborhood to finalize run #2 then took lunch to my wife at her office, without showering. We chatted for a few minutes then I made my way back home for some food, a shower, reading, stretching, utilizing a foam roller and a little rest. Bring on run #2.

2pm was upon us and Fishsticks and WWL were standing in my driveway ready to roll, anticipating popsicles at the conclusion, as promised. After a brief overview of the route, minimizing the neighborhood hills, we were off. We dipped in and out of most of the cul-de-sacs, received a ringing of the cowbell from Grinder and a few walk-by’s from Bonsai. We discussed personal memories from 9/11, documentaries of the time, Disney vacations and first jobs. All watches clocked 4mi and we finished at the driveway to have popsicles with a few of my kids after school. Not a bad Friday afternoon.

Eat, shower, laundry, watch a show with the kids, now time to hang with them for a bit. So far, no pain.

Run #3. 5:30pm rolls around and the process begins again, back on the trails but this time at the Springs Greenway. A few families saw us off as Rock Thrill, Reborn, Walker, WWL (and friend Justin) and I for what we expected to be a 4.25mi run along these beautiful trails. After a few correct turns, a missed turn and a couple of stops to get reoriented, we eventually got back on track. Back on track meant we rolled into the end point after tracking 5.25mi which unfortunately, doesn’t mean we get to take mileage off the next run.

Fortunately for me, my family had some leftover food and I essentially licked the containers clean. It didn’t matter what was in there, I was taking all of it. We all parted ways and we made our way back home. Only about 2 short hours later and we’re taking off again for what will be no more than 4mi back on the road from my house. We filled this 2hrs with a daddy/daughters movie and just some good hangout time on the couch. It was what was needed, mentally and especially, physically.

Run #4. The time is around 9:40 pm, I’m getting the girls to bed and I get a text from Reborn. It reads, “Bill Nye and I are here.” Here? As in waiting outside my house? Seems like I need to get my butt in gear. Dressed, shoes on and out the door to meet them outside and begin the last minute attempt to stretch. But it wasn’t just the three of us. We had us plus, WWL, Justin and Fish Sticks to go on a 4mi jaunt through the neighborhood I’ve run so much over the years. We ran a different route than we did on Run #2 and tried really hard to keep the pace in check. We finished, fist bumped, briefly discussed the 2am plan from WWL’s house and parted ways.

For me, 2 slices of cold pizza, salt water, quick shower and bed. 2 hours later, at 1:27am, the alarm goes off to get ready for run #5 and jump on the struggle bus. Some more salt water, a light snack, I jumped in the truck to go pick up Olaf as he joined WWL, Rock Thrill, Justin and myself. It was a unanimous feeling that this is the segment where the soreness and tightness started to become apparent. It didn’t help we were running in Fort Mill’s Baxter neighborhood again, which isn’t known for flat terrain. Such a great idea for a 2am run. But as the saying goes, no one cares what you can do when you’re fresh. That’s good because we were anything but.

We did our thing but for the first 2mi, Olaf serenaded us with dad jokes he was reading from his phone. As if running in the dark at 2am isn’t enough of a challenge, do it while looking down at your phone. I’d love to tell you about the rest of the conversation we had but honestly, I can’t begin to remember. I was securely sitting in my pain cave. The calves and quads were talking to me but I just kept telling myself, “I GET TO” do this. We finished at 2:39am, said a few words to each other, said goodbye via the fist bump and quietly looked forward to the 6am run when we knew we’d be joined by a few more guys.

I dropped Olaf off, had a snack, salt water, shower and got to sleep in the guest bedroom. Oh wait, head fake…no sheets on the bed so let’s try that sequence again. I drop Olaf off, had a snack, salt water, shower, made the bed, salt water, lay down on a tightly made bed. I caught a few Z’s and the alarm started talking at 5:30am, giving my body 2 additional hours of sleep! Fortunately, this prep time felt more like getting ready for a normal post so I chose not to take the struggle bus and settled for the drive filled with anticipation of seeing a few more friendly faces.

Run #6 and I was right. Pusher, Flat Tire, Italian Job, Tinker Toy, Spiderman, Shady, Vuvuzela and Gekko joined WWL, Reborn, Fish Sticks and I on the friendly grounds of Walter Elisha Park in Fort Mill. This was such a welcome change. We took off toward the Fort Mill Golf Club, made our way back with a brief tour of Whiteville Park, avoiding the “zipper” so many of us have become accustomed to (nice try Spidey) and rolled back in right as the watches clocked 4.02mi. Why 4.02? If you’re a runner, you’re likely familiar with the .01mi that can get cut off in the transfer of information from your watch to your tracking app. We weren’t about to have that occur now.

We got some good stretching in as the sun started to rise and the Boot Camp boys were getting after it for The Fort’s 9th Anniversary Convergence. We discussed soreness and solar panels. What, is that pairing not normal? Hmm, it was today. Back home for some Tailwind, a shower, a real breakfast and some coffee. The house is now alive and I’m choosing to treat this segment like a normal day…until 9:30am rolls around.

Run #7. And then it happens. It’s 9:30am, we now have kids in different directions and it’s time to get ready for the 7th of our 12 runs. This time, another trip to Allison Park but now, on the roads for our 10am mosey. We learned our lesson on the first trail run at this park and we weren’t going to repeat that. With heavy legs, Justin, WWL and I were off. It was a clean, uneventful 4mi. We did notice however, the heat was starting to climb and our 2pm run was going to be “special.”

Back to the house for the same recovery routine. Hydration and food, followed by a shower and rest. The temperatures are steadily climbing and it gets to 89 degrees quickly, which is less than ideal. The 8th run takes us to Cherry Park in Rock Hill where Reborn was leading an F3 Dads workout. You know, since running this much isn’t enough, he should definitely Q a workout. He never misses an opportunity to give back so it wasn’t a complete surprise. As for the rest of us, Justin, WWL, Fishsticks, Walker, Gekko and I took 3 laps around the mostly-shaded path at Cherry Park and that was that. 4 up, 4 down. This time however, I tried something for the first time during this run. After commenting about the tightness of my lower calves, WWL suggested I go buy myself some calf sleeves. If you’re not familiar with these, think of long, tight socks without the foot portion. The idea is that they help blood flow throughout your lower leg in order to minimize soreness and cramping. I bought a pair prior to this run and whether it was the placebo effect or not, my legs didn’t hurt as much as earlier runs.

As we were parting ways, this is where the conversation about the Springs Market pumpkin pie soft serve ice cream began. You see, WWL shared with us that his afternoon plan included just that, a trip to Springs Market for their new seasonal flavor. We all began to drool but let’s be honest, something far less tasty could have induced a similar response. My afternoon included a 1hr nap so call it a draw. Fast forward a few hours and we reconvened at the Greenway again for run #9 and what was to be no more than 4mi. After talking with Topham for a few, Justin, WWL and I embarked on what was assuredly going to be a quicker experience than before. The chatter was minimal, the scenery was nice and after 4mi, we were finished with our 9th run. Back to the house for PORK CARNITAS, a much-needed recovery meal followed by a movie (or most of it) with the family.

Overall, I was feeling ok. My lower calves were still sore but manageable. My ankles and smaller muscles in my feet were tight and my hips, man, my hips; they were making themselves known. That last part was what surprised me the most. I wonder if as my legs started feeling heavier, I was engaging my hips more, or, it’s just a lot of miles so of course it’s going to be sore. Regardless, I had to make sure I was taking care of them. I used the foam roller for a bit, got dressed, loaded up and made my way to pick up WWL. This time, we were heading down into Rock Hill to run with Reborn and Ponytail for the 10th run of 12. It was a 10pm run in Reborn’s neighborhood which consisted of blue driveway lights used to land planes, pitbulls that sounded like chihuahuas, pitbulls that actually sound like pitbulls, construction, coconut ice cream and world peace. All in all, it was typical conversation at 10pm on a Saturday night while trying to complete more physical shenanigans.

The run ended in his driveway and we celebrated by eating freezer pops, some even injected with Pedialyte…who knew? We stretched, shared discomforts and parted ways. WWL and I were on the way back home and he pulled out a sunbutter and homemade strawberry jam sandwich on Dave’s Killer Bread® and it was perfect. As he said, if we eat before getting home, it allows sleep to come faster. Brilliant!

With 1hr 45mins more sleep on the body, the alarm goes off while sleeping in the guestroom, which has become my dorm for the night runs. Fast forward through the typical pre-run routine, go pick up Olaf as he is our 2am running wingman and arrive at WWL’s house for the 11th run of 12, another Baxter tour with he and Justin. We made our way through an uneventful run discussing things like first concerts, being dropped while crowd surfing, first cars, jobs, high school sports and I don’t remember what else. Again we finished, bent over with hands on knees, and started to feel a little joyous at the idea of only having 1 run remaining. The tightness had set in but we knew the drill, stay focused with one foot in front of the other, walk some hills and keep moving. When our momentum stops, it’s twice as hard to get it started again. We parted ways again and began to look forward to putting a bow on this endeavor.

I arrived home to a still-quiet house, ate a little, rinsed off and raced to bed. 2 hours later, the iPhone reintroduced me to the 5 o’clock hour. Our 12th and final run was to begin at 6am at the Riverwalk in Rock Hill and I was quickly motivated, knowing we’d have more guys running (jogging really) with us for the final 4mi. I tried to stretch again, roll again and drink more salt water, again. I made my way out the door, into the truck and on the road to head to our final launch point and be greeted by some of the best guys you’d meet. In our circles, 4mi isn’t much but as we all know, they weren’t really there to log 4mi. These men were there to be a motivation by purely being physically present. They wanted us to know they cared and supported us in our effort to complete this challenge.

Rock Thrill, Winchester, Car Boy, Vuvuzela, Walker, Cobra Kai, Gekko and Topham joined Fishsticks, Reborn, Justin, WWL and I for the final trek. It was a 2mi out and back along the paved path running parallel to the Catawba River. It was dark at 6am for run #12 but it was so cool to hear the river flow over the rocks and all the sneakers hitting the pavement. This was a great reminder for me that no matter how alone I feel, whether running or otherwise, I’ve got men of high character, and many more outside those with me this morning, who have got my six. Men who care if I show up or if I don’t. Men who care about the choices I make and the words I speak. They didn’t have to say anything, I knew they cared simply by being there. I hope you too, have people in your life like that.

We got two miles out, the turnaround for this final run, then turned back. This is when I looked to my left, saw WWL and commented, “last 2mi here, brother.” He looked at me and said, “let’s get it done.” At the time, I didn’t understand the magnitude of that exchange and frankly, I’m fairly certain it didn’t sit with him as much as it did me. I was about to run the final 2mi of our 48mi challenge with the same man I ran the previous 46mi alongside. No matter the darkness of the night, or the heat of the day, if I followed WWL’s lead, I just knew things were going to be alright. He was a calming presence during a time I could easily spin myself into a ball of nerves. Thanks to him, I never had to run alone and deal with those nerves.

We made our way back, came across the “line” and I did as I typically do after long events. I dropped to the ground. In the distance, I heard, “Max are you ok.” In this group of men, I’m known as Maximus thanks to my high school mascot being a gladiator, so my name often gets shortened to “Max.” I responded, “Yeah, I’m good, just taking it in.” I was laying flat on my back looking up at the combination of a starry sky with a hint of sunshine and the men that encircled me talking and sharing memories. At that moment, I was present. I was present in the discomfort and in the accomplishment.

Several months ago, I had this feeling. This feeling that now was the time to complete this David Goggins challenge I’d thought about for a few years. Fortunately, I had a few other guys who were willing to do this with me. We started at 10am Friday morning and proceeded to run 4mi every 4hrs for 48 hours. This meant we ran 48mi over 48hrs. And as I lay on the ground having just completed what we set out to complete, I felt joy. It was now about 7am on Sunday morning and the event was in the rearview mirror but not without the memories and the soreness.

I hope there is a challenge out there that you’ve been thinking about. I hope you think about why you’ve put it off and what it would take to give it a try. Whether there is a medal and a finish line or “just” the knowledge of completing something you had to train for, there is a discovery in the training process. Don’t become so focused on the finished product that you neglect the steps along the way. Steps are where true growth happens and those same steps could include sharing dreams of pumpkin pie soft serve ice cream. Don’t miss the teaching that pain can provide and please, don’t miss opportunities to be present with those around you.

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The Art of the EH notes

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The Art of the EH
Date | time 9/8/2021 12:00 PM| Location Everywhere there is Men
Meeting called by All those future FNG’s that need F3 in their life.

Type of meeting Quick Reference Guide

Facilitator The Grantan CSPAN

Note taker Olaf

Timekeeper The Time is NOW

Attendees [Attendees]
Please read: Freed to Lead, Qsource, Your SkyQ text
Please bring: An FNG to your next workout

Notes from various podcasts where F3Royality give tips and pointers on how to get another man to show up to an F3 workout.
Advice / Takeaways Presenter Link:

Keep it short and sweet.
Its and invitation so there should be no pressure.
Don’t forget to mention the fellowship part
Get them plugged into all of the communication channels locally and nationally offered.
Hundo (Houston TX)
[Time]


Show up to a Spin Class in Ranger Panties.
Do not beat people over the head with F3.
Let them come around. Invite them casually
Picking up the six is part of the Credo.
Reach out to the kotters before they get too far out of rhythm.
Bagger Vance (Nashville TN)
[Time]


Once you have a guy join you in the gloom you can really hook him into a follow up post if he feels like he was challenged physically to the point he is over his head. Then having someone come alongside him letting him know that this is just part of the process, that we have all gone through, and that we all know how he must feel and reassure him that he is going to make it. Make sure that even though they might be the six; that they are welcomed and it just takes time and effort. (Leave no man behind; but don’t leave him where you found him).
Advice on how to get a mutual friend to show up to a workout: Don’t be afraid to volunteer a guy that you are going to pick him up and make it seem like he will be missing out if he doesn’t come. ( it’s mind-blowing what you can get a guy to sign up for if all of their buddies are doing it) See every CSAUP I have signed up for.
Think of how much F3 has improved your life and share it with the prospective FNG.
Remember the mission of F3: Its not only about fitness.
Dark Helmet (The Nation)
[Time]


Coffeteria after workout strengthens the fellowship bond and gives the FNG a chance to actually have a conversation without being out of breath.
Persistent text message, phone calls,
Pitch the weekday 5 :15am workout first so that the Saturday morning 6:30am or 7am workout looks more appealing.
Give them a Freed to Lead book to read and ask them to bring it back the next time so it gives them some accountability to come back.
Personal EHs are much more likely to succeed compared to a cold call or email to an unknown guy.
Get your M to brag on you if possible to her friends and on Facebook.
If you have made a huge transformation people will notice and when they ask you what caused it be ready to tell them about F3 and the positive impact it has had on your life.
Business cards to give out to potential FNGs.
Team dad : Have some seasoned PAX volunteer at the local elementary schools to help lead a mini bootcamp where the kids and their fathers can get exposed to the mission of F3.
F3 men volunteer to speak at a local men’s group or bible study group. One Call (Grandstrand SC)
[Time]


There are many ways to approach a potential FNG and the depending on their personal experience your rate of success will vary. Going up to a stranger and challenging his manhood might be insulting to most men but might be the best approach for a former Marine. You must know your audience.
Double D gets credit for the glue which is continuing to engage with the new guys and work to develop that fellowship which really starts to show that F3 is way more than just a workout.
Make a deal to meet a potential FNG at his normal workout if he will come join you at your normal F3 workout.

Explain that they can’t come just one time since the workouts are peer led. Could get a seasoned PAX on Monday and an FNG on Tuesday. We are developing leaders so failure is necessary and encouraged.
Don’t be pushy but consistent because you want to make sure they know that you care. We can see the potential in them and we have often been in their same shoes and you want to encourage them that they can fight out of the crappy status quo and become a part of something much greater than themselves.

CSPAN
[Time]


The ART of the EH part2
Plan your FNG drives according to the seasons. Guys are much more willing to come workout in the gloom when it’s not 33F and raining.

There are men that need F3 in their life but they will not show up if there isn’t a man to invite them. Be that man.

Loneliness has been proven in MIT study in September 2017 to increase the risk of obesity, depression, cardio vascular disease, anxiety and dementia.

Two categories of EH’ing. Growing a region with mass marketing approach vs one on one conversations.
Regional Growth:
Lead generations- choosing a channel. Choosing a message to target your intended audience.
Spray and Pray- mass marketing, business cards, billboards,
Individual organic growth:
Nag approach. Consistent reminders to potential guys to come out and join. Often guys will come out just to get relief from the nagging.
Counselor approach. Before trying to give this gift of F3 away you need to do some self-reflecting and pinpoint why F3 means so much to you. “Best day I ever have starts with an F3 beatdown.” Look at why you personally do F3 and what voids it has filled in your life. This allows you to be authentic in your conversation with another man. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable and authentic. Guys can tell when you are trying to sell them something.

“The price is right and I believe in the product”

Always be EH’ing.
It’s a stylized sales pitch. But don’t call it a pitch.
Tailor the approach to the targeted audience.
Guys crave the relationships we have and if you don’t give it away you might be excluding them which can make them feel worse.
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These are notes for when you are ready to actually have a conversation with a potential FNG. It is the job of the local SLT to get the PAX prepared and comfortable talking to guys one on one. Getting guys in your region in a situation where these conversations can take place is equally important. IMHO I feel like getting guys prepared to have these conversations is the first step in setting up for growth of a region. You don’t want to waste a first impression if you’re not prepared and comfortable having a conversation about F3.
“Never shoot the commercial for the product before the product is ready to be purchased.”
Work on your elevator EH. It is called an emotional headlock…not just a headlock. You have to discover what the potential FNG is missing on an emotional level and tailor your EH conversation towards filling that void. It is hardly ever just about the workout. Most men long to have meaningful relationships with other men. Shared suffering just happens to be a great way to build those relationships.
Don’t be afraid to kick someone in the pants as long as it is out of love for them.
Be prepared to counter the typical excuses. This is why I enjoy the flying EH. Most of the barriers to posting in the gloom have already been overcome. A man can’t tell me its too early, too cold, too dark, when he is already up and working out solo.
Always be EH’ing. If it’s a man tell them about F3. Do not fall into the trap of only EH’ing guys that look like you or have the same socioeconomic background as you. “Open to all men” means all of them. Ask OBT if you need further clarification.
I find the easiest guys to EH are the ones that already know the benefits of being part of something bigger than oneself. This could be former military, high school team sports, college fraternity. All these guys most likely miss that comradery so when a bunch of instant friends is offered and the only cost is the embarrassment of trying to make it through a tough workout they usually jump right on it.
Offer to pick them up at their house so you can give them a brief overview of what to expect during the workout. It also lowers the barrier of entry because only a handful of guys are willing to meet you in the middle of a park in the dark by themself. Its intimidating to say the least.
Explain the 5 core principles. Better yet it helps promote unity within the group if the Q asks the PAX to list out the 5 core principles.

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Ways to drive widespread interest in F3. Before starting to embark on the journey to double your regions number of PAX through widespread marketing and promotions it is highly encouraged to have gotten the majority of the local PAX comfortable in telling others about F3. This can be less of a requirement if a local welcoming committee or core group of guys whos D2X is EH’ing is already in place.

Ways to really promote F3 to the masses.
Nextdoor App promotions.
Facebook posts, especially neighborhood marketplaces.
Was Now testimonies are great to show proof of potential results that can be achieved.
Sponsoring a local litter pickup section of road.
Strategic placement of QR codes to drive traffic to local regional schedules of workouts.
Share the numerous articles and podcasts that are available on the national level.

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• Connect with “Hoff” in Cape Fear region to get his secrets on how to pull off the flying EH.
• Connect with “limp Bizkit” from Rock Hill to get his secrets on the flying EH.
• Practice asking guys to give me their best EH during a beatdown while everyone holds a plank or Al Gore and ask for feedback. We are building leaders here. Practice being vulnerable and practice giving and receiving constructive criticism.

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THE TALL GRASS

THE TALL GRASS

You love your kids. You don’t want them to experience the hardship you experienced, and you want them to be set up for success beyond your own. It’s a natural feeling for us as parents. Isn’t it normal to chart a course for our kids, to empower them to go further in life? To set them up for a life better than our own.

Mind you, I am not a child development professional, I have no degrees in this area and I only have my own experience. I do, however, tend to be a bit observant of situations. Within those situations, I am aware that I don’t know the full context and perhaps, I’m only seeing an emotional, point-in-time decision based on years of build-up. While that is true, I also know you have your own experience and you’re not reading my thoughts for medical or psychiatric direction. If you are, please stop now.

With that out of the way, what am I getting at? Perhaps the best way I can explain is by sharing a term that was recently shared with me, the “lawnmower parent.” You’ve heard the term “helicopter parent” where a parent hovers over their child to observe, criticize or correct their every move. This parent is involved in every decision, micromanaging the mental and emotional development of their child. I’ve been this parent before when I focus on critiquing the actions of my kids. I’m obsessing over what they are or are not doing, correctly, in my eyes. The lawnmower parent is different. This is the parent that is always out in front of their child clearing the path, removing every obstacle in an effort to ensure their child doesn’t have to make a tough decision on their own or experience adversity.

I choose to believe that the heart of the lawnmower parent is in the right place, that the intent is constructive. No parent wants to see their kid struggle, even me. I do enjoy the feeling of seeing my kids experience the light bulb moments, however. Those moments when they figured something out on their own. In the earlier years, when I could still provide guidance on their homework, it was great to see them figure out the solution based on an approach different than my own. Or, deciding what should be included when packing their suitcase. It’s an error they learn more quickly when they get to a friend’s house and realize THEY forgot to pack underwear. At this point, there is no one else to blame and the consequence isn’t too severe. Today, it might look like a new idea on how to handle a tough situation with a friend. Or perhaps more commonly, mom and dad aren’t going to make the meal, so they need to figure out what a balanced, colorful, body-nourishing meal looks like…they’ll actually eat.

This reminds me of what my mom would say when we’re in the kitchen together. Whether we’re making dinner or emptying the dishwasher, she’d say, “Don’t ask me where something is or where something goes, keep looking until you find it’s home.” Sometimes, she’d ask a question about where I thought something like that would live or show me once but not repeatedly. Like so many of her one-liners, they seemed to only address the immediate and I didn’t draw the parallel to life. What she’s inferring is the same as a two-liner you’ve heard, “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. TEACH a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime.” She knew that by telling me where I could find the glasses, I’d likely ask her again when I needed a plate. I’ve only then learned that she is the source of knowledge. She also knew that by letting me open and close a few cabinet doors until I found my objective, I was learning it on my own, gaining my own knowledge that I could then share with others. No wonder she always had me emptying the dishwasher and making my own lunches. Seriously, thank you Mom.

Or, what about when my daughter comes home from school complaining about an interaction with a friend that I too would complain about? What should I do? Should I call the other kid’s parent? Or the school? Should I tell her to ignore this person and find a new friend? I don’t want to see her struggle and as a dad of three daughters, I want to be the protector. I want to be the place of refuge for my girls. But if I make that phone call in this case, I might have robbed her of the ability to think critically. Instead, she realized that at this point, their personalities didn’t blend well, and she could have a better relationship with a different friend. Not the ideal outcome in the moment but a key learning in life.

There are certainly times when I will need to step in more directly. However, I need to apply my own discernment and realize those times are the exception, not the rule. My discussion with her was centered around understanding why this situation surfaced. Why did the friend act this way? How did you, my daughter, contribute to this interaction? I understand my kids aren’t perfect and could have contributed to this dilemma. What are a few options on how to move forward? If she helps to solve the problem, she’ll be better equipped to think critically in the moment and share that learning with others. If she just applies what I say or believes I’ll fix “it” for her, she’ll struggle more in those moments when the heat really rises. We’ve told our kids repeatedly and we share this belief with others, we’re not raising kids, we’re raising future adults, future leaders. Leaders can’t always look over their shoulder for someone to come save the day.

Sometimes, not giving the child what they want in the moment presents conflict. I’m essentially telling my child, “no” and in the earlier case, it’s to address a conflict for them. In other situations, this could be minor like saying they can’t always just have PB&J and grapes on their plate and no, I’m not going to make your lunch. Or, I won’t email the teacher for you, asking for clarification on an assignment. It’s likely they won’t make the same decision I would, which exposes some of my own helicopter issues but hey, improvement needs a place to start. On the other hand, what if we’ve taught our kids so well that they actually handle a situation better than we would have, or, make a much better lunch than we would have? Imagine that light bulb moment. Imagine if my teenager couldn’t make her own positive food choices or make her own bed. What if we got tired of negotiating with her and performed these daily tasks for her? Would it continue through high school and then into early adulthood? What decisions are made at that point? What did we really teach her? While the bed example is still working to prove its benefit (it took getting married for me to see the benefit), the food example has paid off in spades. I challenge you to find a newly minted teenager who eats a more powerful menu. Girl loves some sugar, but it brings a smile to our faces when she runs the show in the kitchen making her choices. The alternative could have robbed her of real-life qualities. She is now an example for her younger sisters and isn’t that the way it works? See one, do one, teach one? Show her how to make an omelette, have her make a few mistakes en route to her perfecting her own omelette then have her show her friend or sisters how to make an omelette.

This learning doesn’t happen, or at least it doesn’t happen until later in life unless we empower our children, our future adults, to think critically through tough decisions. If I rob my kids of learning through adversity, they’ll believe that life is easy because others take care of the hard stuff for them. Or, what if they walked through life not knowing how to think through things on their own?

By the grace of God, my adversity has been minimal and to date, so has the adversity our girls have had to face. There are times where it is appropriate for me to step in, times where adult contribution is advised. However, if I think my contribution is required to keep them from spilling milk on the counter, that is more of a control issue. When they spill the milk, they learn to clean it up. They learn that cleaning it up is no fun therefore they look for a way to avoid spilling the milk. I’m not pouring the milk for you any longer and guess what, they love the responsibility. Shoot, now they observe parental behavior when we’re out and they feel sorry for the kid. “Let your kid try it for themselves instead of doing it for them. They’ll learn.” These are statements they have made from their own observations.

Can you please let your children, your future adults, spill a little milk, get a few bruises, make a few mistakes and see that both you and they, can learn through not having the grass mowed for them? Let them experience a little reality, a little bit of hiking through the tall grass, not just walking barefoot on the putting green. If they’re not fortunate enough to experience some small failures at an early age, what happens when they fail at something at a later age? They might think they’re a failure because life has come so easy for them until that moment. Don’t do that to them. Don’t rob them of the learning experience adversity provides? Did you become stronger by having life lived for you?

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Pumpkins Spice and NOT everything is NICE! – The Sweati Returns

  • What:     The Fort’s Hottest CSAUP = The Sweati (southern cousin of the Yeti)
  • When:     Saturday October 2nd
  • Time:     
    • Ruck – 0600 launch
    • Run/Relay/Bike – 0630 launch
    • Bootcamp at The Yard – 0700 launch
  • Where:    The Yard (for you redwoods out there) Fort Mill Middle School Springfield Parkway
  • How:         Your Choice: Run, Bike, Ruck, Relay, Solo, SpaceX vehicle
  • Requirements: Bright Clothing and lights for being on roads with vehicles. No bright clothes….we got a problem
  • Why:        Because were men!!!
  • BONUS:  Coffeeteria after and possibly a seasonal flavor libation 

Details: In Sweati Tradition, you show to know, however if you keep asking me I may drop some hints…..JUST BE THERE!

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F3 The Fort Anniversary Party

Get ready to celebrate the Anniversary of The Fort. Location will be next to The Springfield neighborhood pool under the pavilion. but the date is set Sept. 17th, 2021. 1830-2130 or 630pm- 930pm for anyone that dosn’t know how to do military time. Cant wait to see you all. It will be the same as last year and bring your own dinner and drinks. We will have a few people speaking.

Look forward to seeing everyone.

location- Springfield Neighborhood Pavilion, next to pool

time- 630pm- 930pm

what to bring- whatever you want to eat and drink.

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