Being Vulnerable is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength

P.S.A attendance is highly recommended. March 27th mark your calendars. F3 St. Louis very own Miyagi and Aerobie has brought light to a sensitive subject that’s right Suicide-mental health awareness. A subject we try and avoid talking about at all or till it’s to late. YHC will be on Q at the Panethon if you can’t make it to the west side of town Stang is on Q at Tomahawk and will also discussing the subject.

I am encouraging you to step up and share your experience. Whether it be about yourself or family member or even a friend. YHC will testify how this subject has effected my life. Please remember what we talk about in COT stays in COT it’s okay to be vulnerable. We are stronger together rather than alone.

Quotes
Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others. Author Unknown

“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.”

”I hide all my scars with an I’m fine.”

The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die. – Juliette Lewis

The world is a better place with you in it.

Suicide doesn’t end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better. – unknown

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The Cornerstone – Challenge ( One Year Long )

To all the Pax of F3 Nation

Are you prepared to challenge your self for 2019? I am challenging all Pax’s to join me for 2019 we will take on one exercise for January (merkins single count) 100 reps every day. Then in February we will add another exercise which will be done every day on top of the 100 merkins and so on and so on. We will increase by adding one exercise each month.  These exercises will be above and beyond when you post. So by the end of the year there will be 12 exercises that need to be done everyday at the reps set.

Do you accept the challenge? Do you want to get better?

I will set the next month exercise and reps the week before to keep you on your toes

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#Serving at Thanksgiving with Many Thanks

With great apologies for the delay in this backblast, here is a followup to our Thanksgiving meal drive. The PAX were truly inspiring in reaching out. We are all called to serve, and can do so in many different ways.

Immediate thanks to Figaro for the turkey donations, along with the 20 men who did not hesitate and within 3 days quickly donated to the cause… and whom most have chosen to remain anonymous. Special thanks to Cable Guy, Frat Boy and Crab Cakes for helping with delivery. More details further below. And additional thanks to Crab Cakes and M Kara for followup support to one of our families!

Many of us don’t truly realize the experiences of the poor and needy  until we are able to observe in real life. Most of stay in our one station in life, but it can be a privilege to experience others’ stations. (see next full story, try to get through it all)

One of the most meaningful and deep scenes in a movie I have watched comes from one of the silliest movies. In the movie “Overboard” with Goldie Hahn and Kurt Russell, Hahn’s female character (Joanna) plays a very stuck up, rich woman who falls overboard at night from her yacht while near WA (state). She gets amnesia. She is ‘claimed’ by Russell’s carpenter character (Dean) to ‘compensate’ for her refusal to pay him for his services performed by him in the days before.

Joanna ends up living a poor life with Russell and his 4 boys for about a month. She experiences things she would never had in her rich world.  She learns humility living a life with little money. Eventually her memory returns and she returns to her yacht.  But she no longer acts like the ‘debutante’ who her mother and privileged husband so want. They think something is wrong with her.

Later on board the yacht, Joanna has an interaction with her servant butler (Andrew) who has been taking care of her his whole life with no thanks for his efforts:

  • Andrew: (Andrew hands Joanna her earrings after they’ve drank tequila shots below decks with the crew) You best not lose these again, madam.
  • Joanna: (perplexed) Again?
  • Andrew: You will forgive me, madam. (clearly mocking her) “Andrew! I seem to have lost my ruby earrings somewhere between 64th and 68th street, find them.”
  • Joanna: (genuinely contrite) I’ve behaved so badly. (Andrew raises his eyebrows)
  • Joanna: You’ve done all these wonderful things for me and I never even once said thank you. I’m sorry.
  • Andrew: (embarrassed) Apology accepted, ma’am. (he turns away and to the sink)
  • Joanna: (following him) Everyone on this boat thinks I’m crazy. Do you think they’re right?
  • Andrew: (turning around to face her) Oh no, madam. Oh no. You… most of us go through life with blinders on. Knowing only that little station to which we were born. But you madam, have had the… rare privilege of escaping your bonds for just a spell. To see life from an entirely new perspective. How you choose to use that information is entirely up to you.

The movie ends up with a happy ending with Joanna returning to Dean and the boys.

It is up to all of us to decide how we use information we have at hand. If you are called to serve, how are you actually serving? Are you truly seeking to serve? Are you open to learning about others less fortunate than you? Even more so, are you willing to put yourself in an uncomfortable environment to learn firsthand?

Here is a quick synopsis of this year’s turkey meals donation.  We had done turkey drives before, but some of the feedback we got was, not that it wasn’t appreciated, but that it was too much of a ‘giveaway.’ Best teach a man to fish, so to speak. But we’ve been in the Paradise community over 1 1/2 years now and we didn’t want to let Thanksgiving pass without some involvement. A plan was put together on Monday, announced to the PAX on Tuesday, enough donations received by Thursday, food bought on Friday and delivered on Saturday.

Thanks were in abundance from those receiving the meals. We had a few crying in appreciation. The names of the 10 neediest families were given to us by Kim Vinisette of SON Ministries who has been working in the community for years. F3 has a strong relationship with Kim. As we shared with the families, we asked them to also share to any others that could use food for the holiday.

We gave each family a nice presentation basket of initial food along with their turkey, an F3 flyer, a holiday card from F3 and a gift certificate of varying amounts (depending on family size) to buy additional food, ie. fresh food, dessert.

We arrived at the park Saturday afternoon and the PAX helped deliver.

Lessons learned include…planning to spend more on each family roughly in the $100 range, buying all the food necessary for a full meal, starting much earlier, getting other groups involved to help support the cause. Maybe next year we can increase the # of families.

I have some pictures but not at the ready. Will get posted here shortly. I want to get this BB out.

*** An additional good experience came from this endeavor. One of the families, a single mom with 3 girls, had next to no furniture in their apartment.  Crab Cakes and his M Kara came through as we identified their needs and their rooms went from having nothing to being filled!  Awesome job!  We are now working on another similar situation. Will post that info soon!

Great thanks once again to the PAX.

Aye! Bolt

 

 

 

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Giving Tuesday – Palmetto North F3F

Thank you for considering a contribution to support the community support efforts of your local Fort Mill and Rock Hill F3 Foundation.  For more details on the foundation itself please click <Here>.

During this season of giving please consider making a tax deductible contribution to Palmetto North F3F where the funds raised go directly into supporting the activities of the Fort and Rock pax.  Specifically these proceeds both the areas we are already supporting as well as the future service efforts in our region.  Our current efforts included:

  • 12th Man Ministries and the numerous Pax that work as mentors to help our student athletes break the performance based culture and help show them God’s love. F3F Palmetto North has supported the weekly dinners with athletes and their mentors.
  • Gfit is a weekly 1st, 2nd and 3rd F within the Paradise community where HIM step up to lead and to help mentor and be engaged in community with our neighbors
  • Reading Center is a semi-weekly, seasonal opportunity to read with the children and develop life skills for studying and reading to help children in the community get up to reading level
  • Rock Hill Children’s Attention Center is a center of children where we spend time bi-weekly with the teenage boys to engage in 1st, 2nd and 3rd F to help give them home and guidance.

Please consider a donation to support these and other efforts that your local F3F Palmetto North and any PAX will help lead across our regions.

Make contributions via PayPal – https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=BGSCH65PWDNV6

or send checks with ” Palmetto North F3F” in the memo line to the following address.

F3 Foundation, LLC

1645 Queens Road West

Charlotte, NC, 28207

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Support Thanksgiving Food Efforts in Paradise

***** Update Thursday 9:00 pm *****
Great thanks to the PAX who have donated, and in just one day 1/2, we reached our goal!  Please, no more donations, but, if you were considering, let Bolt know in case we want to add additional families to receive food.
If you would like to volunteer to help deliver (no 2.0’s on delivery, please) to the families, please let Bolt know ASAP. Delivery is being planned for Saturday from 1-3:00 pm (before the G-Fit workout). If needed we will deliver later Saturday, or on Sunday.
For this saturday….1-3:00 pm – food delivery…followed by G-Fit with the kids at 3:00 pm  please join us and bring the 2.0’s to g-fit!!!!

I will be purchasing food tomorrow.  Today, I was able to get 10 large baskets with Thanksgiving themed ‘liners’ (for a nicer food presentation) at a near-donation price from the Humane Society thrift shop. They have supported us previously, and offered to continue to give us sports balls which we use and distribute to the kids in Paradise. We will also be getting a supply of corn, beans and yams which we will not have to purchase. This means we will be able to give the families a larger gift certificate to the grocery store to purchase any additional food items that may want outside of our basic food items (ie. dessert, etc).

Thank you! bolt *****

 

Thanksgiving is nearly upon us,  and Bolt and Deacon are seeking PAX support (quickly) in a small effort to provide full Thanksgiving meals to families in Paradise.

F3 has had a presence in Paradise for over a year and half now. In past years we have had a community turkey drive. We are changing it up this year to provide (at least) 10 full meals to specific high priority families in need. We are working with Kim at SON Ministries to identify these families. But we must move quickly in our efforts with a target delivery of this weekend 11/17-11/18 and an absolute deadline of Tuesday 11/20.

<See also below schedule of events in Paradise over the Thanksgiving holiday>

Each meal will consist of a turkey and all side dishes (list below) needed for a full meal. THANK YOU TO FIGARO (Montrio Belton) who will purchase all of our needed turkeys! This means we just need the side dish item package.

*** As of 11/14 8:15 am, WE ONLY NEED 5 MORE FULL SIDE ORDERS! Full orders are about $30 unless you want to add few items, ie. dessert) ***

HOW TO SUPPORT

  • Purchase the side items on your own. IF YOU PLAN ON PURCHASING THE FOOD ON YOUR OWN, PLEASE LET BOLT KNOW IMMEDIATELY FOR TRACKING PURPOSES!
  • Partner up with another PAX to purchase the items.
  • Donate any money amount to Bolt via Paypal. Send to: thenewpauko@hotmail.com
  • Pledge: If you want to commit but can’t do PayPal, just let Bolt know ASAP and he will cover your pledge until he sees you next.
  • From there, meet up or schedule pickup with Bolt or deliver to 3728 Leela Palace Way in Waterstone near Tega Cay.
  • Assist in delivery to families in Paradise.

Paradise Schedule of Thanksgiving events

  • Sunday, November 18. Volunteer at “Harvest of Thanks and Poor Man’s Meal”, a community meal held at Jerusalem Baptist Church in the Life Center. It would be great to have F3 support at this community event. More details to come via Twitter.
  • Weekend 11/17-11/18 through Tue 11/20. Help to deliver our holiday meals.
  • Saturday, 3:00 pm,  11/24. Post at G-Fit with a holiday pizza/food party following.

Thank you to everyone for your support on this endeavor and to all PAX that have joined us in Paradise!

Aye! Bolt …….. Always open for suggestions!!!

Food side list –  (You can shop anywhere and you can alter this list as you see fit. Pics below are from Harris Teeter. This link may take you to the shopping cart: https://shop.harristeeter.com/store/C39878905#/cart)

Required:  8-10 lbs potatoes, stuffing @ 12 oz, green beans @ 30 oz, corn @ 30 oz, collard greens @ 30 oz, cranberry sauce @ 14 oz, gravy @ 18 oz, mac and cheese @ 3 boxes 20 oz.  This list includes mostly canned foods because delivery will be days before Thanksgiving.

Possible additional:  celery, onions, carrots, sweet potatoes, rolls/biscuits, DESSERT.

( I don’t think these screenshots have turned out too well. Will try to improve.)

 

 

 

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Charter Band-aids for Little Warriors – PreBlast

As most of the PAX in the Fort and Rock regions knows my 5 year old daughter (Emma) is a leukemia survivor. We still make a trip every 4 weeks to get blood drawn to check her counts at Levine Children’s Hospital. We also stepped up and raised money last year (Christmas time) for a fellow brother bout-time out of Area 51 son Jennings who has leukemia also.

It has come to my attention that the budgets have been cut in some of the pediatric departments and the first thing to go is usually the character band aids. You say how important is to have these band-aids? Well as far as the cancer kids go every time the have their PORT’s (Port is a small medical appliance that is installed beneath the skin. A catheter connects the port to a vein) which for some kids is traumatic they get a band-aid over it. For others that are done with treatment such as my daughter Emma has to go back for the next 21 years to get checked (mainly blood counts). This not always easy for instance this past Wednesday she was poked 3 times. Well at the end the band aid can put a smile on a child’s face. This also goes for those kiddos that have to constantly get blood work done not just cancer kids.

So what I am challenging you to do is every week you go grocery shopping buy at least one box or more of character band-aids girls or boys. Also Spread the word in every COT. I will tweet out what AO’s I will be at and if anyone wants to step up and help me collect that would be awesome.

I also challenge others in different regions to pull together and do the same thing. My goal is to gather as much as possible and split it between Levine Children’s Hospital and Novant Health Hemby Children’s Hospital (St. Jude Affiliate Clinic) before Christmas.

Let a simple act of kindness put a smile on a little fighters face.

AYE. Lets do this.

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Another Day In Paradise

14 PAX joined HYC this evening (12 from the community). We had a nicely shaded AO during the workout.  Just the way I like it.

Disclaimer. Disclaimed.

The Thang:

COP –

I informed the young PAX that who ever showed the best effort during the exercise would be able to choose the next exercise and lead it.

  • YHC              : 10 SSH; in cadence
  • Young PAX: 10 Merkins; in cadence
  • Young PAX: 10 Big Boy Sit Ups
  • Young PAX: 10 Moroccan night club
  • Young PAX: 10 burpees
  • Young PAX:  1 lap around the parking lot

Next series of exercises: Cone work

  1. We set up 2 lines of 11 cones each. Cones were spaced 3 feet apart.
  2. We divided into two teams.
  3. First set of PAX would side shuffle through the cones and the next PAX would start once their teammate finished. Winners did 10 Merkins, Runners Up did 5 Merkins
  4. Rinse Repeat x3. Everyone did 5 Merkins after each series.

COT:

Name-O-Rama

  • Q#1 to the young PAX: Who is your favorite superhero?
  • Q#2 to the young PAX: What do you want to be when you grow up?
  • Q#3 to the young PAX: What is it going to take to get you there?

We discussed hard work and effort as being necessary to achieve what you want.

Philippians 4:13: I can do all things through HIM who gives me strength.

We then discussed what role Jesus Christ plays in our lives.

Prayers/Praises

NMM:

During and after the workout, I felt like, “I got it”. I got why teachers, teach (why mentors, mentor; why leaders, lead etc). They don’t do it for anything other than the satisfaction of helping youth develop. It’s easy to see myself in these children. These children are young, talented, energetic and in need of a little structure and discipline provided through the example of male role models. It was an honor to play that role, even if for only a short while. Thank you, PAX of The Fort, for supporting our community.

Thank you, Deacon, for the opportunity. And that you for being a true #HIM to these children.

#CoopStrong

 

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The End of the Beginning

  • QIC: Copay
  • When: 05/21/2018
  • Posted In: G-Fit

As the school closes out and the doors of the Paradise Reading Center close until the next school year, I wanted to write this BB to shed some light on all that F3 and PRC have been through.

We embarked on the opportunity to engage with the youth the second half of the school year at the Paradise Reading Center and what a pleasure its been ever since! We have been able to read with kids of all different reading levels and see them excel and grow. We also have been able to make the PRC more than a Reading Center. We have had the opportunity to mentor and discuss topics of financing, higher education, careers, etc. With the awesome donation of 5 Apple Mac computers from Forest Hill Church Fort Mill , the Center was able to expand their computer lab providing access and resources to more students. We also established the”See it, Be it”  campaign given the youth an opportunity to hear from various professionals  with many coming from neighborhoods similar to their own. The youth were encouraged by various professionals that they too could do the same thing if they aspire to.  It has been a honor to be a part of the team along with other voluteers to see the development of some great young minds at the Center who have been nothing more than accepting of F3 from day one!

Cant begin to thank all the PAX and the 2.0’s  that came through week in and week out to provide that impact as well! Whether it was  once or several times it was much appreciated and the youth are better because of the PAX and 2.0’s consistent presence. Also want to thank those PAX that donated books, supplies, etc. As the title states this is is only the end of the beginning! We have just scratch the surface of what we can do through this Center so very excited about the future! We have a updated schedule for the upcoming school year for use the link below to sign up because its never too early for an HC! If you did not have a chance this school year, I encourage you to take the tie to come through and #serve.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/11ak80g7L12X6hCDN1_h5cSUemDlqWzBdgMyJII1RHy4

Copay Out

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G Fit April 42818

Beautiful day in the neighborhood!  We had 27 PAX on a gorgeous Saturday afternoon- the last as G-fit is moving to Friday nights for the summer to escape the heat and blazing sun.  Lots of F2 2.0s.

G-fit has done a good job- Deacon and Bolt have done a good job continuing to stay fluid in the structure and format of this workout to reach as many Paradise community members as possible while still driving purpose and effectiveness.  Today’s installment was 30 minutes of mosey and exercises before breaking to enjoy some kickball.

We had a few standard exercises and added a few fun ones- ATMs.  4 count shoulder tap, push up that when you finished you are “cashed”.  The group really liked that and love it when you ham it up.

Part of the enjoyment/bond I get in this workout is taking a few to the side, asking questions: how are you doing?  how’s school?  anything you are having trouble with?  Highlighting their great achievements in front of the group as well.  Sunshine got a 95 on her test this week.  Miracle helped to pick up trash in the park unprompted.  Still some of kids needed a little extra attention.  You have to do your best to read them as you would your own children.  Dolphin seemed particularly withdrawn.  Could tell she wanted to be included but still needed some space.  Had a chance to check in on her.  Didn’t get any answers but hoping that someone taking the time to notice was helpful in someway.

Discussed worthy and I emphasized several times to the community (ages 3-14), that they are worthy.  Worthy of Gods love, worthy of love from another person and worthy to show love.

Keep pouring in brothers.  Aye!

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Another day in Paradise

It was Another Beautiful Day in Paradise. Mid-afternoon, 80 degrees. Perfect.

I was the first PAX to arrive at the AO. I scouted the area (My VQ for G-FIT) and start walking back to what I believe is the gathering spot. In the distance, I see two young PAX.

Young PAX (as he approaches me):  Is there a workout today?

YHC: Yes.

Young PAX: F3 (he yells)!

YHC: For sure! (I felt more than welcome to be among these young PAX).

Disclaimer, disclaimed.

The Thang:

COP –

+Lap around the basket ball court

+10 SSH

+10 high knees

+3 set of 10 Merkins

+10 big boy sit-ups

+10 Marocoon night clubs

+10 baby arm circles

+10 over head claps

+5 burpees

+10 mountain climbers

+20 merkins

+lap around the basketball court

I took the first couple of exercises and then invited (rotating clockwise) the young PAX to join me in the middle of the circle and call the next exercise. It was neat to see how eager they were to join YHC in the middle and lead the PAX. The COP lasted 30 minutes. We got some drinks and a snack, played some frisbee, basketball, and soccer. Again, it was a Beautiful Day in Paradise – perfect for a Saturday afternoon.

NMM:

I once mentored a pre-teen through the non-profit: Big Brothers, Big Sisters. Through this program, I learned how important it is for youth to have positive role models in their lives (especially young mem, as there is seemingly a shortage of positive male role models). And I’ve seen how being there for a youth can make a huge difference in their lives.

It didn’t take much to big a “Big”. YHC was simply someone that showed an interest in my “Little”. It was being someone the Little could look up to and envision themselves someday being. The most difficult part of being a Big (in YHC’s opinion) was making the time. Having said this, every minute I spent with my Little, I truly enjoyed. Without a question, Ruben (my Little), added so much to my life. It was an unexpected pleasure. I felt the same way about being among the PAX at G-FIT.

The best part of today was the COT. When I asked for prayers/praises, two of the young PAX raised their hands to pray. You could tell they love Jesus. It was a beautiful sight.

Thank you Decon for getting me on the Q list. Can’t wait for the next one! And thank you F3 PAX, you are all true HIMS!

Aye.

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