F3 The Fort – Adopt a Highway (#2)

****March 5th 2022- 7:45am – 8:00am****

Men,

We have officially signed up for the Adopt-A-Highway Litter pick-up program.  Our adopted Highway is US21 from Peachstand south to Sutton Rd. (2 miles). We will have a sign installed to promote this section of the highway.  We are encouraged to complete 4 pick-ups a year (once a quarter).  All supplies will be provided.  All we need to do is show up.  The SC DOT will come out and pick up our bags along the route after completion.

**Our NEXT Clean-up date is tentatively scheduled for March 5th. (start time )  7:45 am – 8:00am**. There is no time expectation for participation.  Stay as long as needed or head out early.  Modify as needed. Plan for 2 hours if you complete the 1-mile loop.  We split up into two groups last time and met at the halfway point.

We will begin at the Peachstand (rear of the building) and coordinate.  I have 30 vests and all supplies.

Fogerty will be the main contact for this event over the next two years.

Here are some of the logistics:

• Make sure your group knows that in case of bad weather the cleanup will be postponed. Litter collection should never be done in the dark or in bad weather.
• Notify local news media who may have an interest in publicizing your group’s activities. • Remind your group of the appropriate clothing. Long pants and long-sleeved shirts and sturdy shoes help avoid scratches and irritation from poisonous plants. Light or brightly colored clothing will make them easily visible to passing traffic.
• Be sure you have all the materials and supplies you’ll need beforehand, including first aid kits.
• Check with members of your group to be aware of any allergies that might be important (such as bee-stings, etc).
• Work out a plan for what you will do in the event of an emergency. Find out what the quickest route to the hospital is.
• Park vehicles at both ends of the adopted section.

• Volunteers must be at least 13 years old to participate in Adopt-A-Highway cleanups. Children under the age of 18 must be accompanied by an adult on all Adopt-A-Highway cleanups.

The state does provide adopt-a-highway orange and blue bags.  Orange bags are for trash and blue bags are for recyclables if you want to recycle.  Your group is also provided with orange safety vests.   We do require four pickups every year, usually once every quarter.  All that is needed to be done after trash is picked up is to call or email me and I will send one of our crews to pick up the bags.

It is volunteers like you who are going to make a difference by speaking up and doing what they can to help their community.  Please let me know If you have any questions, I will be glad to assist you.

Thank you,

Sherry J. Johnson
Administrative Specialist/
Adopt-A-Highway Coordinator
SC Department of Transportation
803-327-6186 O I 803-327-6184 F
JohnsonSJ@scdot.org

District Four Maintenance
338 Robertson Road West
Rock Hill, SC 29730

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F3TheFort Holiday Drop-In

The Forts annual holiday party will have a different feel this year.
With COVID still lingering we have decided to have a gathering but it will be a bit different.

We are encouraging The PAX to go to dinner with your M and either your Shieldlock, Whetstone, or small group of fellow PAX and their Ms. After dinner we will all gather for an hour or so of a social hour(s).
This will give our Ms the opportunity to meet the crazy fellas we spend the early mornings with but more importantly their M.

We are all fortunate to have this crazy group it is also just as important to try and let our Ms meet some other ladies in the community and possibly let them start great friendships as well.

Make it a day of F3. Start with the golf outing, go to dinner and then grab a couple beers, a bottle of J Lohr wine, a cocktail and let’s kick off the holiday season.

If COVID worries you or your M we will have an outdoor area to hang out at as well as indoor areas.

Where- Springfield Community Center- by the tennis courts/pool
420 Horton Grove, Fort Mill, SC 29715

Time- 7pm-9pmish

When- Dec 3rd, 2021

Contact- Backdraft with any concerns…

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2022 Dam to Dam for a Cause

  • QIC: Backdraft, Cornerstone, Cyclops, Stang, Gekko, Nasa, Gears, Reborn, Slash, Pusher
  • When: 02/26/2022
  • Posted In: 3rdF, CSAUP

10 teams from across the Fort/Rock Hill/Lake Wylie regions have committed to the 2022 Dam to Dam Relay from Lake Murray to Lake Greenwood. In addition to this effort, these HIMs have committed to continuing the mission of F3 by invigorating male community leadership in a partnership with local charities.

Over the past 2 years, HIMs from the Fort have contributed over $45k back into local charities. in 2019, we provided over $15k in school supplies to Classroom Ready for students in need. This has led to a continued partnership since that time. In 2020, we provided over $30 to Harlans Heroes to support families dealing with pediatric cancer.

In an effort to continue to build our legacy in our area, we will be raising funds to create (3) scholarships at all local schools in partnership with the Foundation for Fort Mill Schools. Your efforts and donations will lead to a 10 year commitment to identify those students who exemplify community leadership.

In addition, we will also support 809 Foundation, Hometown Heroes and the St. Jude Dream Home. As a group, we felt that our fundraising could and should impact as many locally as possible.

We have set a goal of raising $50k for 2022. We ask that you support us with a contribution to the following link Dam to Dam for a Cause. Thanks in advance for your consideration and contribution.

In addition to the F3 Foundation, we have several upcoming events. Please see information below and contact the QIC for additional details:

11/19/21 – Bourbon Tasting (Cyclops – QIC)

Early December 2021 – Fort Golf Tournament (Stang – QIC)

12/24/21 – Santa Clave 5k and 10k (Boss Hogg – QIC)

1/29/22 – Dam to Damn Bar 10k (Hardwood – QIC)

TBD – Grapevine Night

More events and details to follow. Thanks for making an impact in our community.

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THE TALL GRASS

THE TALL GRASS

You love your kids. You don’t want them to experience the hardship you experienced, and you want them to be set up for success beyond your own. It’s a natural feeling for us as parents. Isn’t it normal to chart a course for our kids, to empower them to go further in life? To set them up for a life better than our own.

Mind you, I am not a child development professional, I have no degrees in this area and I only have my own experience. I do, however, tend to be a bit observant of situations. Within those situations, I am aware that I don’t know the full context and perhaps, I’m only seeing an emotional, point-in-time decision based on years of build-up. While that is true, I also know you have your own experience and you’re not reading my thoughts for medical or psychiatric direction. If you are, please stop now.

With that out of the way, what am I getting at? Perhaps the best way I can explain is by sharing a term that was recently shared with me, the “lawnmower parent.” You’ve heard the term “helicopter parent” where a parent hovers over their child to observe, criticize or correct their every move. This parent is involved in every decision, micromanaging the mental and emotional development of their child. I’ve been this parent before when I focus on critiquing the actions of my kids. I’m obsessing over what they are or are not doing, correctly, in my eyes. The lawnmower parent is different. This is the parent that is always out in front of their child clearing the path, removing every obstacle in an effort to ensure their child doesn’t have to make a tough decision on their own or experience adversity.

I choose to believe that the heart of the lawnmower parent is in the right place, that the intent is constructive. No parent wants to see their kid struggle, even me. I do enjoy the feeling of seeing my kids experience the light bulb moments, however. Those moments when they figured something out on their own. In the earlier years, when I could still provide guidance on their homework, it was great to see them figure out the solution based on an approach different than my own. Or, deciding what should be included when packing their suitcase. It’s an error they learn more quickly when they get to a friend’s house and realize THEY forgot to pack underwear. At this point, there is no one else to blame and the consequence isn’t too severe. Today, it might look like a new idea on how to handle a tough situation with a friend. Or perhaps more commonly, mom and dad aren’t going to make the meal, so they need to figure out what a balanced, colorful, body-nourishing meal looks like…they’ll actually eat.

This reminds me of what my mom would say when we’re in the kitchen together. Whether we’re making dinner or emptying the dishwasher, she’d say, “Don’t ask me where something is or where something goes, keep looking until you find it’s home.” Sometimes, she’d ask a question about where I thought something like that would live or show me once but not repeatedly. Like so many of her one-liners, they seemed to only address the immediate and I didn’t draw the parallel to life. What she’s inferring is the same as a two-liner you’ve heard, “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. TEACH a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime.” She knew that by telling me where I could find the glasses, I’d likely ask her again when I needed a plate. I’ve only then learned that she is the source of knowledge. She also knew that by letting me open and close a few cabinet doors until I found my objective, I was learning it on my own, gaining my own knowledge that I could then share with others. No wonder she always had me emptying the dishwasher and making my own lunches. Seriously, thank you Mom.

Or, what about when my daughter comes home from school complaining about an interaction with a friend that I too would complain about? What should I do? Should I call the other kid’s parent? Or the school? Should I tell her to ignore this person and find a new friend? I don’t want to see her struggle and as a dad of three daughters, I want to be the protector. I want to be the place of refuge for my girls. But if I make that phone call in this case, I might have robbed her of the ability to think critically. Instead, she realized that at this point, their personalities didn’t blend well, and she could have a better relationship with a different friend. Not the ideal outcome in the moment but a key learning in life.

There are certainly times when I will need to step in more directly. However, I need to apply my own discernment and realize those times are the exception, not the rule. My discussion with her was centered around understanding why this situation surfaced. Why did the friend act this way? How did you, my daughter, contribute to this interaction? I understand my kids aren’t perfect and could have contributed to this dilemma. What are a few options on how to move forward? If she helps to solve the problem, she’ll be better equipped to think critically in the moment and share that learning with others. If she just applies what I say or believes I’ll fix “it” for her, she’ll struggle more in those moments when the heat really rises. We’ve told our kids repeatedly and we share this belief with others, we’re not raising kids, we’re raising future adults, future leaders. Leaders can’t always look over their shoulder for someone to come save the day.

Sometimes, not giving the child what they want in the moment presents conflict. I’m essentially telling my child, “no” and in the earlier case, it’s to address a conflict for them. In other situations, this could be minor like saying they can’t always just have PB&J and grapes on their plate and no, I’m not going to make your lunch. Or, I won’t email the teacher for you, asking for clarification on an assignment. It’s likely they won’t make the same decision I would, which exposes some of my own helicopter issues but hey, improvement needs a place to start. On the other hand, what if we’ve taught our kids so well that they actually handle a situation better than we would have, or, make a much better lunch than we would have? Imagine that light bulb moment. Imagine if my teenager couldn’t make her own positive food choices or make her own bed. What if we got tired of negotiating with her and performed these daily tasks for her? Would it continue through high school and then into early adulthood? What decisions are made at that point? What did we really teach her? While the bed example is still working to prove its benefit (it took getting married for me to see the benefit), the food example has paid off in spades. I challenge you to find a newly minted teenager who eats a more powerful menu. Girl loves some sugar, but it brings a smile to our faces when she runs the show in the kitchen making her choices. The alternative could have robbed her of real-life qualities. She is now an example for her younger sisters and isn’t that the way it works? See one, do one, teach one? Show her how to make an omelette, have her make a few mistakes en route to her perfecting her own omelette then have her show her friend or sisters how to make an omelette.

This learning doesn’t happen, or at least it doesn’t happen until later in life unless we empower our children, our future adults, to think critically through tough decisions. If I rob my kids of learning through adversity, they’ll believe that life is easy because others take care of the hard stuff for them. Or, what if they walked through life not knowing how to think through things on their own?

By the grace of God, my adversity has been minimal and to date, so has the adversity our girls have had to face. There are times where it is appropriate for me to step in, times where adult contribution is advised. However, if I think my contribution is required to keep them from spilling milk on the counter, that is more of a control issue. When they spill the milk, they learn to clean it up. They learn that cleaning it up is no fun therefore they look for a way to avoid spilling the milk. I’m not pouring the milk for you any longer and guess what, they love the responsibility. Shoot, now they observe parental behavior when we’re out and they feel sorry for the kid. “Let your kid try it for themselves instead of doing it for them. They’ll learn.” These are statements they have made from their own observations.

Can you please let your children, your future adults, spill a little milk, get a few bruises, make a few mistakes and see that both you and they, can learn through not having the grass mowed for them? Let them experience a little reality, a little bit of hiking through the tall grass, not just walking barefoot on the putting green. If they’re not fortunate enough to experience some small failures at an early age, what happens when they fail at something at a later age? They might think they’re a failure because life has come so easy for them until that moment. Don’t do that to them. Don’t rob them of the learning experience adversity provides? Did you become stronger by having life lived for you?

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F3 The Fort Anniversary Party

Get ready to celebrate the Anniversary of The Fort. Location will be next to The Springfield neighborhood pool under the pavilion. but the date is set Sept. 17th, 2021. 1830-2130 or 630pm- 930pm for anyone that dosn’t know how to do military time. Cant wait to see you all. It will be the same as last year and bring your own dinner and drinks. We will have a few people speaking.

Look forward to seeing everyone.

location- Springfield Neighborhood Pavilion, next to pool

time- 630pm- 930pm

what to bring- whatever you want to eat and drink.

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Wild at Heart – Love God…Live Free

  • QIC: Kaiser & Divac
  • When: 08/18/2021
  • Posted In: 3rdF

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs…ask yourself what makes your heart come alive, because what the world needs is men fully alive”

Why is it that the desires we find deep in our hearts are so far from the lives we find ourselves living?  It is this question and the question of the antidote for this lack of whole heartedness that we will be searching for over the 7-week temporary Third F AO “Wild at Heart”.

This is a journey into whole heartedness guided by a video series from Wild at Heat Ministry – see the trailer HERE!  Each week we will gather to watch the video (each about 20 min) and have some guided discussion over coffee afterwards.  Our hope is this 7-week session will be the beginning of a deeper work to unlock our masculine heart and unleash the impact we are meant to have in the Kingdom.

It’s time to cut through the BS, it’s time to remove the fig leaf, it’s time to stop living from your false self…it’s time to be fully alive!  It’s going to be a wild ride…join us!

When: Each Wed from Aug 18 – Sep 29 at 0615-0715 

Where: Springfield Community Clubhouse – 420 Horton Grove Rd, Fort Mill

 Schedule is designed so that you can post at 1st F of choice then head straight to the clubhouse for 3rd F.  Coffee/Water will be provided each morning.

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2021/2022 – Journey Groups Forming Soon – Join Intro. Sessions of Journey

  • QIC: Orange Crush, Spud and Chicken Hawk
  • When: 08/05/2021
  • Posted In: 3rdF, Pre-Blast

Stop for a minute.  Stop checking the boxes, counting up your accomplishments and planning for the future.  Stop doing your side-straddle hops, merkins and burpees.  Stop shuttling your kids to and from practice. Stop working on that honey-do list. Stop standing guard at church, reading that daily devotional… just be still for a moment and ask yourself a question.

“How connected am I to Christ?”  Stop and Ponder.  Are you as connected to him as he has called you to be?  Are you secure in your faith that He is with you through all things? Do you feel his presence when you are on top of the mountain and deep in the valley?

Maybe you have an answer to this question or maybe you are scratching your head on what it even means to be connected to Christ.  In either case, come discover more and enter into a Journey that will take you deeper, farther, wider and to heights that you haven’t experienced before as you learn to connect to and walk with Christ.  WARNING — This Journey is not for the faint of heart and must come with a risk warning that it will absolutely transform your life if you fully engage.

Starting Wednesday, August 4th at 6:30 – 7:30 we will be kicking off a 3-week introduction and study into what the Journey to this place of Abiding in Christ looks like.  The location will be in Kingsly @ Hangin’ w/ Stang

  1. Week 1: August 5 (Hanging w/ Stang -) – Intro.  Orange Crush, Spud and Chicken Hawk
  2. Week 2: August 12 – Cornerstone and Stang
  3. Week 3: August 19 – Cheddar and Olaf

Study Questions: (for 2nd two weeks – LINK)

More Information: https://influencers.org

Please reach out to Glenn Gordon, John Karwatsky or Brian Brenner or connect directly with the link below.

Contact: influencerscarolinas@influencers.org

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End It Ruck

 

YHC is issuing a 21 day challenge (culminating with GTE24 on August 6th) for ALL PAX within The Fort. 

Beauty out of The Nation has created an End It Ruck challenge and I have felt the call to bring it to our region. The mission is to set fifty individuals free that are currently enslaved in the human trafficking industry. The cost of freedom for someone enslaved in this industry is $6,550. This provides the rescue, post-rescue housing, rehabilitative care, counseling, vocational training, and assistance with assimilation into society for those who have been set free.

The challenge: log as many miles as you can while biking, hiking, paddling, rucking, running, swimming, or however else you please.

The goal: pledge a monetary amount to each mile that you feel comfortable to donate at the end of the 21 days. It could be $.01, it could be $1.00. Whatever it is, let it be something you are comfortable with.

The kicker: YHC will match $1/mile up to 1,000 miles for our group. My M and I have prayed about this and feel this is something we need to be involved in.

You can log your miles here.

More info on End it Ruck here:

https://enditruck.com

More info on the End it Movement here:

https://enditmovement.com

At the end of the challenge you can donate to the End it Ruck here:

https://enditruck.com/donate-here

This mission is something that weighs heavy on my heart, and my goal is to shine a light on this to The Fort. 

If you have any questions – hit me up on slack! Now get moving!

Punch List out. 

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F3 Blood Drive July 1!!!!

  • QIC: 3D
  • When: 07/01/2021
  • Posted In: 3rdF

After the Barry, come donate blood and complete your 3rd F for the day.  July 1 12-5:30  Forest Hill Church Fort Mill.  www.redcrossblood.org  Sponsor Code “FThree”    Donating enters you in a drawing for 1 of 2 trips for 4 to Cedar Point or Knotts Berry Farm.

While you are at it, sign up for Sept 2.  9 weeks from July 1 so you can do it.

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Tasting and fellowship for a cause

PAX:

It’s been talked about for months and, finally, will come together.  Here’s the format:

Date to gather – Friday, June 11, 2021

Time to gather – 1800 to 2100

Place – Reserve at Gold Hill Clubhouse 631 Quicksilver Trail

What to bring – Three things:  1) A chair, 2) If you’re tasting bourbon, a bottle to share with fellow enthusiasts.  if you’re tasting hops and barley, a 6-pack or growler/crowler to share.  If you are doing neither and are tasting water, YHC will have you covered.  And 3) A recommended donation of $50 (or whatever you are comfortable kicking in) which we will collectively donate to the charity of our choosing.

YHC will have catering from Moe’s provided.

Why are we doing this – It has been said to those whom much is given, much will be expected.  As leaders, our obligation is to pay it forward or, as we say in F3,  give it away.  As we roll into summer, let’s use this evening to celebrate great fellowship, our blessings and the chance to be a positive force to a group in need – whomever that ends up being.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Cyclops

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